humiliation is simply a point of view. As Oz had indicated.

A prime example:
We own two different collars, one is her permanent one that she never takes off, except for surgery, and the airport. The other is our play collar. There is no mistaking what it is for. The permanent one is 3/8" stainless steel. Looks very nice on her neck. No D ring or anything. Just a very interesting looking necklace if you don't know better. The play collar is a leather collar with 3 D rings. one at the throat, and one on each side. Well I had her wear the play collar out around town. We stopped into a gas station and she got out, forgetting it was on. In the middle of the store she remembers it was on. It was very humiliating, but she did enjoy the overt statement that was being said about her. Made her feel very submissive to be wearing it cause she was told to.

Each is just a collar, yet one invokes pride, where the other was a source of humiliation.

Talking with a male switch who I am very good friends with. He indicated that more men than women seek humiliation due to the taboo factor. Men generally are always looking for that new high, that next activity that will be more exciting than the last one. Where women don't normally want to bust through societal taboos (I did say normally).

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