I could not agree more with you annie. Will just add that I think men can also find it hard to take on their biblical role since society puts pressure on them to behave differently, in the same way that woman can feel pressure not to submit to their biblical role.
I have discussed this teaching with non-lifestylers, a number of whom seem to really struggle with it; but that is because they do not have the intuitive understanding which we do, that Dominant is not greater or more important than the submissive, but that it is a partnership of equal although different roles.
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