Question: To Submissive?

[TomOfSweden]

How is it possible to be too submissive Impossible to fathom.

It sounds more like that guy wasn't all that dominant to start with? There's plenty of guys who are sadists, and somehow think they need to act like dominants because it fits the trapings. People are different and in the BDSM scene all this labeling has really gotten a bit out of control.

My advice is to go slow. I'm sure you'll notice what works and what doesn't for both of you. If you have a great need to be very submissive and your current relationship won't allow you to live out that part of you. Then is the relationship worth keeping alive? Life is short.

[vampyres{ID}]

How is it possible to be too submissive Impossible to fathom.

It sounds more like that guy wasn't all that dominant to start with? There's plenty of guys who are sadists, and somehow think they need to act like dominants because it fits the trapings. People are different and in the BDSM scene all this labeling has really gotten a bit out of control.

My advice is to go slow. I'm sure you'll notice what works and what doesn't for both of you. If you have a great need to be very submissive and your current relationship won't allow you to live out that part of you. Then is the relationship worth keeping alive? Life is short.

To me it is worth it to keep the relationship I couldn't see sacraficing a relationship with a man I love more then my own life and respect dearly for my own selfish urges.

[TomOfSweden]

To me it is worth it to keep the relationship I couldn't see sacraficing a relationship with a man I love more then my own life and respect dearly for my own selfish urges.

I thought selfish urges is what it's all about. Just kidding. As always giving advice from across the Internet is always hard when we don't have the big picture.

[vampyres{ID}]

Thanks for all the helpfull advice, this person made me feel like I stood no chance of ever making a master happy because in his oppinion I wasn't fit for this lifestyle because I didn't object enough, to be entirely honest there wasn't much he said that I really found worth objecting to, I either liked it or it really didn't bother me.

[vampyres{ID}]

I thought selfish urges is what it's all about. Just kidding. As always giving advice from across the Internet is always hard when we don't have the big picture.

Hehe no worries, Internet is hard to get an understanding from. This relationship has lasted 11 years, some years including stuff that statistics were stacked against it (or us for that matter) surviving. I have to much of my soul invested in this relationship, I can not see anything making me walk away from it. And I do have to give my husband credit, he is trying despite cringing and at sometimes feeling like a total bastard even doing the things I like.