Is your marriage a happy one? Why do you do it? Would you leave your spouse for your D/s partner? Would you meet them in r/l? Is is cheating?
When does it become cheating?
Confession is supposed to be good for the soul...

I did not read the inbetween pages, but sharing this would be good for me.

My husband and I almost divorced a year ago. Things had been up and down for a few years and then it got worse. It's too long a story to tell, but after a long heart to heart we really wanted to work it out. We are happy now, "for better or for worse" often pops into my head. It was with determination and the fact that we've always been best friends that made us proceed.

I had begun some months before that to explore my sexuality online. I had been holding back and stuffing it down for religious reasons for so long I finally just completely rebelled. He is very conservative, and it was a large part of things not working out. Certainly not the only thing, but a major one.

I only recently started exploring BDSM, and it is with someone I have known almost a year now online. He is a comfort to me. Actually it has improved my marriage, because I am not frustrated and upset and feeling like I'm knocking my head against a wall. I can accept my husband for where he is at more graciously and explore things with him more patiently.

I would not leave my husband for anyone. I've had to reassure him of that frequently. He knows I am in online forums for adults only, he knows that it "gets things out of my system". He does not know the extent of things and I don't want him to know.

I actually wouldn't mind meeting my Dom in real life, but not for sex. We're friends, not just online partners. And if this didn't work out we would still get along and be able to talk of other things.

Is it cheating? Yes. I wish I could justify it, I go back and forth with the positives and the negatives. I wish I could be honest about it. I would love to lay it on the line, with the guarantee of him not hating me for it. I'm proceeding cautiously. Our communication is improving, we'll see what happens.