You're here because you want to be, and that's as good a reason as any. For the most part, this is a very friendly and open community. The people who run this site go to great lengths to make it that way. I'm happy to have met you, and I hope you will continue to visit whenever you can. It's very unfortunate that you were the victim of such unprovoked, outrageous, inexcusable, immature, disrespectful, ignorant, haughty, hypocritical, malicious, judgemental, asinine, offensive behavior. For someone to be so ill-mannered, yet claim to be in the lifestyle, is such a contradiction that one has to wonder who the real wannabe is. *HUGS*