I feel this way sometimes, but if the feeling continues for a long time or happens often....for me...it means that there is something else going on. Usually, if I start saying no or refusing things I know will give my Dominant pleasure, that means something is not working in the relationship and my feelings of submission to that person are falling away.

If all else is well within the relationship and I am just going through some things, I generally prefer a Dominant to be thoughtfully strict with me. If I am really pleading for mercy, I'd rather be given an alternative activity or be given a time frame in which something has to happen. Sometimes, I might be going through a bad day (or days) and I like that to be taken into consideration without a Dominant letting me run the show. So, for instance, I might be given the night off with the stipulation that the Dominant's request is honored by a certain time. Of course, there could be times in life when someone is going through something really hard or awful and needs to be let off from any demands for a little bit.

I hope things get better with your sub. I don't know what the issues are. Do you think depression is a possibility?