Quote Originally Posted by Carmenica Diaz
If you are looking for a relationship, I suggest you do the usual things to meet a woman, perhaps devlop the relationship further where discussion on sexual lifestyles can then be undertaken.
I'm finding this to be an intersting thread. In theory, I agree with what you are saying CD (referring to the quote), but at the same time that seems like it could take forever! It took me 44 years to meet a compatible girl with submissive interests the first time. I like to think it'll be forever, but being a realist I understand that things can happen and one day I may find myself single again. At this point, a vanilla relationship wouldn't do much for me. I know I would always be craving what I have now. I'd be one of those guys on here posting personals and looking for a new partner with the same interests. I was fortunate that my girlfriend was my best friend for several years before we started seeing each other so she already knew I was a pervert! Lucky for me, she was too and wasn't shy about letting me know that after we got together a year and a half ago.

Maybe someday it will be appropriate to walk up to a girl in a bar and say...

"Hey baby, can I buy you a drink? And by the way, I'd like to take you home, handcuff you, put a spreader between your ankles, stick a dildoe in your snatch and a butt plug in your ass and then whip you until I get tired before cumming on your face while I pull your hair and twist your nipples until you scream!"

Now granted...I've never actually tried that line so I'm speaking hypothetically, but I wouldn't anticipate much success. Too bad we don't have some sort of "visual signal" to let the opposite sex know what we're into.

Getting back to the original response. I do think its great to meet your soulmate, fall hopelessly in love and then discover that you have mutually kinky and compatible interests...but its a lot to ask. I'd personally rather find all that out up front. Maybe its different if you're younger, but I wouldn't want to spend a couple years getting back to the point where I am with my love now. A couple of weeks...maybe.

Anyway, this has been a largely "tongue in cheek" reply (but with an opinion).

and lest I offend any of my fellow bdsm enthusiasts, I was joking about the "pervert" part. To the contrary, the few couples I know who are into this lifestyle, part time or full time, seem to have much stronger relationships than any vanilla couple I know. I wonder if thats because of the trust involved??? I suppose that's a topic for another thread.

Good luck to the starter of this thread (I've been typing so long I forget the name)! Keep looking and you'll find him. In the meantime, have fun looking!