Is it topping from the bottom or orneriness?

[orchidsoul]

Hi Talia,

I think it sounds more like your playful, perhaps even a little saucy/cheeky (in the best of ways), for the most part. If your Master appreciates all these qualities about you, that's all that matters.

Some Dom/mes would not want their subs to have any of these traits, and others endear it as it seems your Master does. Personally, I think it's sexy and playful and hope that any man I'm with would appreciate it as well. Whether sub or not, it's fun to turn our partners on (looking at the example of the woman masterbating where only her Master could see her)

My understanding of "Topping from the bottom" is that of Hellish's- manipulating a situation, but not always ill intended. It's a Subs job to be open and honest with a Dom/me, and that means telling them specific things, but say you mention that you'd love to be randomly taken in the doorway (bear with my poor example!)... I think topping from the bottom would come into play if you said two days later "tonights a good night to take me in the doorway", or behaving poorly to try and manipulate some punishment to take place in the doorway (you see here why my doorway example is poor! lol but I'm going with it) I think that's more of a clear example of a manipulative intent as opposed to innocent.


Cariad- Very funny!!!!!! Good work.

ID- Would you mind elaborating on:

it could have been, depending on your intent...

I ask because I think this is a really good example of a situation where fine lines exist as to whether it's considered topping from the bottom.

Thanks Talia- this is always an interesting topic of discussion/education to me.