Thank you ID and Desade for your imput...

IDCrewDawg Well I feel that since she was attempting to get her partner to Dominate her, even as much as he may wanted to, as a Dominant if he didn't want to, and she had persisted to the point he relented and did as she wanted. It could be seen as topping from the bottom because she controlled the dominant.

I feel topping from the bottom is done with ill intent, the submissive looking to undermine the Dom. If that isn't the intent, then it doesn't fall into the category of topping from the bottom.
What I had intended was something anything....not dominnation, initially....but something to show he still loved me, an I love you back would have been nice but instead he walks away from me. Im on my knees baring my soul to him...open and raw. He walks away

I took the first step to kneel at his feet and tell him I love him.....He walks away.....Did I persist...not at first...I went and cried...for hours...then I approached him...Just asking him why he doesn't love me...he said he did....but just laid on the bed and ignored me. I think that's what pushed me over the top...being ignored.


In general I would offer that any time a sub or a bottom goes outside the defined and negotiated limits or parameters of his or her role to attempt to maneuver or manipulate the dominant partner in the relationship into performing in a certain way, it is easily defined as "topping from the bottom." Now, it can be done playfully, spitefully or even maliciously. My personal feeling is that when it is done playfully it is almost a normal part of the relationship. Every person has wants, needs, desires and fantasies that they want to see fulfilled It is natural for them to try make this happen. Its natural.

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So...are you saying topping from the bottom isn't always negative?