I think everyone has hit on a portion of the problem of defining "topping from the bottom." Because there are some many variables in a D/s or BDSM relationship, one all encompassing definition is almost impossible to find. First and foremost I would think that it depends on the roles that the persons in the relationship have defined for themselves. Is it a D/s relationship, Master/slave, Top/Bottom relationship? Within the scope of those definitions, what limits are in play, what relational rules, what parameters on roles have been negotiated? In the end, I think that the definition of "topping from the bottom" is slightly different in every relationship.

In general I would offer that any time a sub or a bottom goes outside the defined and negotiated limits or parameters of his or her role to attempt to maneuver or manipulate the dominant partner in the relationship into performing in a certain way, it is easily defined as "topping from the bottom." Now, it can be done playfully, spitefully or even maliciously. My personal feeling is that when it is done playfully it is almost a normal part of the relationship. Every person has wants, needs, desires and fantasies that they want to see fulfilled It is natural for them to try make this happen. Its natural.

On the other hand, if it is done spitefully or maliciously, it is a dangerous and detrimental act that threatens the D/s or BDSM relationship. It becomes an issue of control and can escalate into and open struggle for dominance in the relationship. I have seen some self confessed subs who do everything in their power to manage and control the entire relationship from the bottom side.

Thats my take on this question. (Kicks his soapbox back under the table)

TDS