WOW a perfect thread for me. LOL

I am married and happy. I love my husband dearly and there is no other person in the world who can give me what he does. Our relationship is what we both want and need and within that we push each other to grow and become more.

I am a sub and I crave a lot of things that at this moment in time my husband cannot give to me. We are taking baby steps together into the world of D/s and I adore him for that, he has amazed me and will continue to. He also recognises and appreciates the part of my personality which is submissive which sometimes makes him nervous (I am usually the one in charge of the family and the home)

There are people out there who will question our way of doing things especially as there seems to be a lot of topping from the bottom at the moment but then we have no problem with it so..... when he grasps that things are OK he will take the control, I am just offering it. We both know that at this moment I have the knowledge and so the tone and pace is agreed and I taint it towards him being more in control, as his knowledge and confidence grows he will grow and take on the role more readily.

As for online. We have had detailed chats about this, we have our own agreements. My husband has told me that he has hard limits of things that he simply will not do, that is fair. He is happy for me to seek out experiences outside of us of things that he cannot give me. Now we do not see this as cheating under the rules of within our limits and always being completely honest about it. he doesn't need transcripts but he doesn't want it hidden. The moment it is secret it is cheating. That is the way that I see it.

Emotionally with online you are giving something to someone else that is special and of course this can be seen as cheating just as it would be if that person was in front of you. I do not see the distinction. If I wouldn't do it if they were in front of me I don't do it online. My number one priority is my family and so an online Dom would be my next priority. But my husband gets final say. We are very open with each other so I have no idea how typical that is just that it works for us.

It is crazy sometimes I think because people think of online as being well explicit but the one thing that my husband has pointed out in my conversations that I have with friends who are DOm's is the rhythem and approch of the conversations the 'roles' within everyday talk that at this moment he does not feel confident in. Basically he likes to see me happily talking in my role as sub, not actively doing anything just slipping into easy chat. I hope that makes sense to some.