I am entering into a new relationship with someone who I care for and trust very much. She is into BDSM, she perfers Sadism, and we have been talking about my participation in play with her, while I have given thought to the idea of BDSM before, I had never had the oppurtunity to actually consider participating in such play. I guess my question is this, I was once in a very abusive relationship with someone and I am having my reservations about play as far as S/m goes, I was wondering if anyone had any advice or has been in a situation like this?