Would You Give It Up?

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My heart goes out to you.

There is no definitive answer to this question as every person and relationship is different. However I have experience of suppressing my desires because I thought it was the right decision to make and yet many years later I realise that I made a mistake. I think some people are probably able to do this and others aren't. It takes an enormous amount of willpower to suppress any form of desires though if you have a loving relationship where you are both sexually fulfilled I think it should be possible to deal with cravings for fetishes. It may require help and it would have to be out in the open as one would need support from your partner.

However I have increasingly come to realise that for want of a better word we all need to be selfish in our relationships to ensure we make the right choices. Everyone in this life has the right to be happy and to make others happy you must be happy in yourself.

For me this has meant making the biggest decision of my life and ending a twenty year marriage because I have had to suppress even the most basic sexual urges I had, let alone my desire for kinkiness. This has been and continues to be the toughest challenge I have faced in my life and yet I know that at the end of it the dark corner of my soul that has always been sad will no longer be there.

Good luck to everyone facing these difficult decisions and I hope my words have helped. I wish I could talk more about my situation to help others but I do not want to put too much out in public for various reasons.

~holding your hand as you take these steps~