Thanks to everyone who answered my question, I guess I asked this question because I was tired of hearing others tell me to forget about what I wanted and to be happy with what I have. It was interesting to read the different perspectives from others. I was somewhat surprised to read about some experiences that pretty well mirror my own.
I don't even think that I could easily answer my own question, without really thinking long and hard about it, and even then I still probably couldn't answer it.
I just feel that a peice of the puzzle that has been missing and that has alluded me for so long, has now been found, and I just don't know now where it goes.
No not blunt, realistic though, and no I haven't really asked. He knows what I am interested in and knows full well what I like. And yes we have been in a relationship for a very long time, and this whole situation for us is not cut and dry. It is difficult to explain an 18 year relationship in a simple paragraph, so I won't even try. But thank you for your help, and I may just take you up on your offer and PM you one day.Dorkalicious
Well, you couldn't ask him? I know that is kind of...blunt. I suppose it would depend on how long you two have been together and what level the relationship is on. Honestly though, if it wouldn't take the "fun" out of it, I would just ask him...at least somewhere down the line. It's not forcing him, it's basically just letting him know what you are into.