Hi Tessa,

You would not believe how much your story sounds like mine!! It was just under a year ago that He and I took the plunge into BDSM. We had been together for six years before that, and like you had been struggling to find what we both needed/wanted in our marriage to make things feel "right".

At the time I was surfing around on the internet and came upon this site, read some of the stories, created an ID, and read some threads in the forums. Let me tell you, I was so taken by what I was reading I couldn't walk away. For the first time, I finally felt I found what was missing and I was soooo happy!!

It took some doing, but after He had seen how much time I was spending here reading, occasionally chatting, and adding some thoughts, he finally created his own ID to see what I was up to. That's when he finally asked me if I was interested in "this". It's crazy, I know, but I was so nervous about admitting to him that yes, I was "really, really curious and want to try it....what do you think?"

Well, as you can probably guess, we've been experimenting and learning what works for both of us since then. (Sometimes it works out great, other times we hit a few speed bumps.)

But, if you ever want to hook-up and compare notes, feel free to chat or catch me on MSN. I'd love to share thoughts and ideas.