Welcome Rhabbi,

I am working on a post right at this very moment that addresses your concerns and ways that can help people be what they are without having to feel they are in hiding.

It may be another week before its ready to be posted as I am waiting to hook up with a friend who is going to model for some pictures which will show examples of what I am talking about in the post.

So hang in there, I think you may find it interesting reading if nothing else.

If you don't mind me asking what is it about your new subs openess (about who she is) that causes difficulty for you. Does she act out in public? Does she tell your friends she is in the lifestyle implying that you are also?