First steps onto the web.

[Rhabbi]

it happens dont worry about it to much

I know, but it still hurts. Sometimes I think that subs forget that Doms can be hurt too.

[Aussiegirl1]

Yes, Doms certainly can still hurt! I too think that sometimes we forget that, but I have learnt that any Dom who cares about their sub, can also be hurt by them.

I hope you find that her lack of communication is for a very good reason!

Best of luck.

Aussiegirl

[cariad]

I know, but it still hurts. Sometimes I think that subs forget that Doms can be hurt too.

I think it is part of every self respecting sub's prayer; 'protect me from Doms who are so insular or self involved that they cannot feel hurt'.

As for 'coming out', why do you feel the need to? I have been in a r/l relationship for some years. I am not ashamed of my submissive nature nor of my D/s relationship but I quite simply do not feel the need to discuss it with anyone. Some people recognise my deference to him, and I occasionally have my leg pulled out it and he receives the odd comment, but why flag up something which people are unlikely to be seriously interested in and are unlikely to understand. Life has enough problems without adding to them.

cariad

[Rhabbi]

I think it is part of every self respecting sub's prayer; 'protect me from Doms who are so insular or self involved that they cannot feel hurt'.

I would hope so anyway. I do know that there are some subs that actually like to live like an abused spouse, but the respect that comes with this lifestyle should prevent that sort of thing.

As for 'coming out', why do you feel the need to? I have been in a r/l relationship for some years. I am not ashamed of my submissive nature nor of my D/s relationship but I quite simply do not feel the need to discuss it with anyone. Some people recognise my deference to him, and I occasionally have my leg pulled out it and he receives the odd comment, but why flag up something which people are unlikely to be seriously interested in and are unlikely to understand. Life has enough problems without adding to them.

cariad

Did I actually say coming out?

I actually agree with you there, the problem I see is the type of relationship I want. I do not want to have to hide my slave in the closet from my vanilla friends, even though they are religious. My faith is an integral part of my life.