I guess I was not as clear as possible in my posting earlier. It is simply that I am not yet sure how to intergrate the two phases of my life, and my potential sub "is no longer vanilla," as she puts it. She is open with her friends and family, and as a result they are wondering about me. I would want to her to be part of my vanilla life, but, at this point at least, not as open about calling me Master while with my friends. This is just something that I will have to work out somehow, the intergration is something that needs to be done because I do not want to be hidden anymore.