Quote Originally Posted by His_blizzard View Post
I tend to ramble on so I am going to try very hard to keep this brief.

A Dominant and a submissive are both "real" when they have the true craving to be Dominant or submissive in their hearts and minds and souls , no matter what part of this lifestyle they chose to,or are able to embrace. Once a part of a D/s union of any kind, they are then honest, sincere, loving and respectfful of each other, as well as being understanding and tolerant of each others concerns, weaknesses, limits and fears. I know of many very loving and "real" online D/s realtionship where there is a very close and intense bond even though they may never meet, and I know some real life D/s unions that are nothing more than a cover for an abusive personality taking advantage of a weaker one under the guise of Dominant and submissive. In my humble opinion, a true Dominant AND a true submissive can be summed up in three words; one who is willing to treat the other with trust, honor and respect. "peace" ~blizz~

For me Faith and Love are the 2 important constituents of any relationship,be it vanilla or bdsm or whatever.I agree that thedegree of physical closeness is immaterial,for today we tend to confuse physical intimacy with a whole lot of other things,but that's digressing..A "real" Dom-sub relationship needs a lot more faith and love to withstand the understandably more difficult period of navigation through the early phase,but I feel if you can live through that,you have the kind of love people just dream about,or maybe beyond that too.