It is what works for us, because Dragon is just not a micromanager. i know my purpose, to make his life easier and meet his needs, preferably without him having to point them out.

(before anyone accuses him of wanting me to be a mind reader, we have been Owner and property for nearly 15 years)

In the early stages of our relationship, we went through a "rules" stage, but their importance decreased as time went by, and the mindset of simply being his took over.

So, i guess you could say that i have simply internalized the rules. But they don't feel like rules. i do not sit at his feet and hold his drink while he reads the paper in the evening because it is or ever was a rule, i do it because it feels natural and right and it puts a smile on his face.