never having been in a real life D/s relationship, many things struck me throughout this thread. i especially liked this from Sir Russell:

Be Proud

You are finally in your nature, your true self! If you have agreed to this life style you have come to terms with your spirit. Now you can truly be adored for that inner beauty. You are precious and I as your Master will be honoured by your submission. It will be an indication of our superior characteristics.

In all things, exhibit dignity. metered movements, not fast or jerky, not slow and sloppy but metered. Eyes opened and looking lovingly at your Master or the world we live in, but chin high. You are submissive and you are swollen with pride, glow from the reality it suggests.

In all things, be the best you can be, and be proud. This is not a suggestion, this is a command.
however, some items from Sir Russell and fantazmaster seem almost stereotypically BDSM - almost what most vanilla folks would describe all this "kinky stuff" as....wenches kneeling nude, being shared, wearing slutty clothes at work... does real life not preclude or get in the way of some of the more intricate rules? or - as a relationship progresses - do these rules become more ingrained as a way of life?

obviously a virgin sub. thanks.

joely