Quote Originally Posted by NatalieD View Post
From time to time I read things on the internet from people who are married, but also have a dom or a sub who isn't their spouse, often just online. And often it seems like the spouse doesn't know about it.

I'm trying not to be accusatory here, but... I don't get it. How is this not simple adultery/cheating? What am I missing about the relationships that makes this sort of thing acceptable?
I don't get it either. For me a relationship is based on love, not which bits gets put into which holes. Love is love no matter if it's on-line or off. Cheating is giving love on the side without your spouses aproval. I've met girls who in theory would like to be one of many slaves, but none who when it gets around to it actually want to follow through with it. But I'm not going to judge or make assumptions. I'll just keep trying to understand, (out of my own selfish interests who wouldn't want a harem of their own).