Ok, here's my take on it. The problem I'm seeing is...well. Dominance for me isn't about who does what, but about the feelings behind it. I know my slave would be obedient in any situation any time. I could have her do all the house work. She would never complain. I could wipe my shoes on her when I come home. I could use her at anytime in any way. I still do the dishes at home. I wash clothes and vacuum clean. We're two people with busy lives. This is what is most practical for the both of us.

I understand a slaves need to serve her Master. And all slaves have different views on what that means. It's important for my slave to serve me. So I tell her to fetch me tea, to lay out my clothes. Scrub me in the bath. That's what serving is for her, so that's what I tell her to do. This is not me or my needs now, but hers. We're all people and too much is too much. My slave has a wonderful mind I love to explore, and if she would be too tired from doing all the work I would have less of it.

Servitude isn't about doing the boring stuff, but showing devotion. Tell him to clean up his own damn mess.

Seriously. If you stick to that guy it's going to be a long and bumpy ride. When it comes to sex it's always best to learn with an expert and both of you are pretty new to this. Being a good Master is extremly hard, (or maybe I just suck at it becuase it took me about 10 years). It's not about just lying back being served. It's about making your submissive flower in her submissivenes. It's about making her happy. That requires a vast insight into how subs/women/people function. That'll take years to develop. And in my humble opinion best learned by sleeping around with a lot of women.

edit: ...and my slaves input is that being with a beginner Master probably means a lot of suffering for you. Her advice is to slowly introduce slave rules. A little at a time and talk a lot about them all the time. Jumping straight into 24/7 will just lead to confusion.

Another thing about the rules is: they can't just be random rules. It must be something that he always have wanted somebody to do for him. Something that makes him horny. Not just things he's just too lazy to do himself.

I love her. She's so smart.