I wonder when a Dom/me says that they will use floggers, and other devices on themselves before they use it on their subs, do you think they try giving edges as well?
If they do, do they do it longer than one day?
I am not being bitter about it, but like frankee says, it does take a toll on your emotional state.

Put me in a state of constant arousal for even a day with no relief and I turn into a raging woman with PMS, who had to give up chocolate and quit smoking after a two pack a day habit.
I am frustrated, cranky and irritable. It was the one thing I complained about the most.
When I had an online Dom, I did not set out to defy the rules, I was honest and always did what was required of me.
However instant gratification, was a far stronger need, even when I knew that I would recieve a punishment.
I could have lied, but that would have defeated the purpose of everything.
I did what I did and accepted punishment for it. Even when he was dissapointed over and over. I always felt bad, but never enough to do it again.
Don't get me wrong, I honestly did try and never initially set out to defy him everytime.
Yes I slipped up the majority of the time, but most times were not intentional.
I can honestly say that when I did intentionally defy the rule, I did make a concerted effort to do better the next time.

So it is not like we are breaking rules just because, some of us just slip and some of us cannot control the need for gratification.

being new to the whole submissive thing as well, I may come across as nonchalant about the whole thing, and hopefully someone will be able to understand and clarify my point, because I am rambling on, and can't come up with what I really want to say.