ok, i will throw some words into the mix, and see what comes out.

i am with an online Master, but have been His for 4 years now. i know that is no excuse for not obeying whatever He has set me to do, and mostly it is not a problem. BUT, sometimes He doesnt realise just how hard things get, or if something else has added an emotional twist, and i cant contact Him to let Him know.

i just know, that sometimes as i am doing something for Him, if i could hear His voice, or just see His eyes upon me, it would help me complete that task.

also, sometimes things are asked that the Top/Dom/me may think are going to be, well, not easy, but not such a difficult stretch ,- such as bringing yourself to the edge again and again over an extended period of time - can become VERY difficult for a sub/slave person who is on their own, especially if they have not been used to doing this for long.

and i will probably get howled down for saying this, but- isnt one of the strongest desires a sub has for control? i know that it is mental control much more than physical, but again, sometimes the mental just over rides the physical and your body just DOES IT. it depends how far you have been pushed and lets face it, thats what these long term tasks are meant to do. push you. so, to my way of thinking, at times, ESPECIALLY in relationships that are not flesh to flesh ( i do not like the term real life, for me online is REAL life, what i do for Him is real!) your brain just goes - bugger it, i cant do this anymore, i will just have to take what is comming- where as if you are
f-2-f you can say, this is becoming very difficult for me, and the Dom/me can use that voice that just helps you get through, or the look that puts you in meltdown, whatever it is between the two of Y/you.

i just think that for long distance relationships, tasks have to be especially considered, and sometimes, reconsidered if they seem to be concluding in punishment too often.

respectfully blu