Quote Originally Posted by Mishka View Post
I couldn't agree more with everyone above, joely.

My first experience into bdsm was with a friend I'd known for 2 years prior.

My second, and current, I read his personal, all his posts, and liked him instantly in e-mails. It wasn't our kinks we had in common...we didn't even discuss them...there was something about him I could respect, trust and feel safe with. So bdsm doesn't have to be sex...though I've only heard of it getting there...but doesn't have to start there.
Well, since she is talking about me, I have to say I agree with her, take your time, find somone you like, and go from there.