Sending you a hug violetgem as I very much understand some of your pain only too well at the moment. I sort of wish I didn't have my collar right now as to see it causes so much pain but I know it was a gift only for me and I would be more hurt if I thought someone else would be wearing it one day. As for taking the other things, I think he was taking advantage of his Dominant position in the relationship to help himself to what he wanted and it was not only tactless but also cruel. From this sort of behaviour it looks like you may well be better rid of him, though that doesn't make it easier. Anger is a better place to heal yourself from than guilt or sorrow.

I hope you take care of yourself and heal fast.