“Breaking up is hard to do”

[ladygstar]

Sorry to hear that things did not work out for you.
I know a few of you are not going to agree ( maybe a lot of you) but the collar belongs to the Master.
It is not the girls.The collar was placed around the girls neck as a sign of ownership. He allowed her to wear it. he did not give her it.
if it was hers then she would be collared to her self..
it was not an engagement ring . That by the way only means a promise to marry. its not a ownership ring.The collar belongs to the Master he may put it on another girl if he so wishes to. it is a sign that HE owns her. she is his property. The COLLAR IS NOT A GIFT

Kate

I think your opinion about the collar will be the same as many others on here and I do in fact agree with it also on many levels. When I spoke of my collar being a gift I was only speaking of my relationship and not in general terms as my Master was never a Master before and nor was I ever a slave before and we chose that path together as part of our whole relationship, which was bigger than any roles we chose to play within it.

The collar is a strong symbol of "ownership" and it seems right that when that ceases to be that the collar is taken back, however the main issue I think in violetgems case is that her rights for any say or input into that were taken from her and yes she may not have an right at all to the collar but she may have had to the the other items.

I have always worried about what people perceive to be the "right" and "wrong" way to live and act within their D/s relationships but I suppose the bottom line is that it it is different for everyone so thus the expectations when it ends will also be different.

It would be hard for anyone in violetgems position to not be emotionally hurt by the act of having her collar taken back or the thought of it been given to another, it is natural to feel this way.

The strongest and most vital tool we have within this life choice is open communication and when that is removed the chances are that one party may well be hurt, as I think is the case here.

~Maybe still a touch emotional at the moment to have been replying in this thread so I apologise if i seem a bit highly strung right now~

[***Kate***]

Kate

she may not have an right at all to the collar but she may have had to the the other items.

~Maybe still a touch emotional at the moment to have been replying in this thread so I apologise if i seem a bit highly strung right now~

Agree with you ladygstar. The other items yes they should have talked about who gets what.

smiles touch emotinal... well emotinal or not its how you see it. and for me to read what you wrote I thought that it was a good responds. I so like that people on here say it how they see it.

[ladygstar]

I so like that people on here say it how they see it.

Me too, thats why I keep coming back