Stone'sSlut, Thanks for a most thoughtful post. I really learned something, I enjoy learning. To be honest I almost skipped reading this thread because it deals with feminism. I'm glad I read it, now I know more, and understand more.
One thing I have learned, and keep learning, is what a great community is in BDSM, truly open minded, thoughtful, learning, teaching, non-judging...the list goes on...
Of course there are turds in the BDSM world as there are in the feminism world, but, generally speaking...