On honesty and feminism

[fantassy]

What's the opposite of feminisim? I'd say a D/s relationship, where a female is the s and a male is the D comes pretty close. So, as long as you agree with that, it should be pretty obvious why you're a hypocrite. You have one philosophy which you claim to be a professor of, and the opposite philosophy which you actually practice.

Just because you say it, doesn't make it so. There is such a huge variety in D/S relationships. that generalization would be extremely narrow-minded even if it were true in some cases. However, I maintain D/S is not the opposite of feminism because even in the most extreme cases, the sub retains the essential right to leave the relationship if the Dom is not behaving in a way that make the sub happy. Feminists fight for women to have the right to make that same decision - to know they have the option to leave and be in total control of their lives if they are not made happy by their situation. As previously stated, feminism is about choices. Moreover, many of us in D/S relationships restrict our D/S to certain areas of life and are in complete control of out lives in other areas. So I give up control in sexual matters, so what? My Dom knows if he doesn't use that control in a way that ultimately pleases me, I will take it back. So how does that make me less of a feminist? I control my finances, my employees, to a certain extent the futures of both my male and female clients, and make all the major decisions affecting my life. The fact that I enjoy being sexually submissive does not make my calling myself a feminist the least bit hypocritical. I both profess and practice feminism in my daily life. Believe me, like any good feminist, I have no problems squashing a male (or female) asshole like a bug when I encounter one.

By the way, isn't calling someone a hypocrite - a flame?

fantassy

[Warbaby1943]

Just because you say it, doesn't make it so. There is such a huge variety in D/S relationships. that generalization would be extremely narrow-minded even if it were true in some cases. However, I maintain D/S is not the opposite of feminism because even in the most extreme cases, the sub retains the essential right to leave the relationship if the Dom is not behaving in a way that make the sub happy. Feminists fight for women to have the right to make that same decision - to know they have the option to leave and be in total control of their lives if they are not made happy by their situation. As previously stated, feminism is about choices. Moreover, many of us in D/S relationships restrict our D/S to certain areas of life and are in complete control of out lives in other areas. So I give up control in sexual matters, so what? My Dom knows if he doesn't use that control in a way that ultimately pleases me, I will take it back. So how does that make me less of a feminist? I control my finances, my employees, to a certain extent the futures of both my male and female clients, and make all the major decisions affecting my life. The fact that I enjoy being sexually submissive does not make my calling myself a feminist the least bit hypocritical. I both profess and practice feminism in my daily life. Believe me, like any good feminist, I have no problems squashing a male (or female) asshole like a bug when I encounter one.

By the way, isn't calling someone a hypocrite - a flame?

fantassy

Amen, fantassy.

I have always loved your posts. You always make so much sense but maybe that is because I agree with you.