When I feel emotional stress, as a sub, I feel the need to escape the situation....my mind is confused, I'm not able to concentrate...if my Online Master is not around, the stress I feel, really does need to be physically released... I can usually apply nipple clamps (behind my piercings) and a clit clamp....I lay down, and lose myself in the pain, resisting the urge to cum, sometimes for hours at a time...feeling the pain centers me...it actually clears my mind....and after I've cum, I can relax....usually exhausted....after resting, I can organize my thoughts, and a problem that held weight before, is easily solved....Perhaps, Misstress, you need to take matters into your own hands....helping your sub reduce his stress, may bring him back to you.... Karen