How did you find out about BDSM?

[punksub]

How did you find out about the BDSM lifestyle?

i enjoyed feeling pain as far back as i can remember. i only found out what this was called when i was about 13 or 14 by means of the internet.

What was its appeal to you?

BDSM in general has served to be very therapuetic for me. It has helped me come to terms with a lot of stuff that happened to me when i was young, but i don't want to start that novel.

What misconceptions did you have of BDSM before you began that have been changed now?

i didn't think there was any love between Domme/Dom and sub. this was a long time ago though. i now see the BDSM lifestyle to involve more love then most vanilla relationships i have seen. And i certainly feel more loved or wanted in my current relationship which is a 24/7 then i have in any of my previous vanilla relationships.

What do you hope to learn/teach/pass on to others about BDSM?

i would like it to be known that BDSM is a very good form of therapy. It may cause unwanted flashbacks, but with a loving Mistress or Master, coping with what happened to you when you were young is a lot easier.

Do you consider yourself a "lifestyler" or just an occasional player?

i am a sub 24/7 so yeah i am a "lifestyler" there are actually very few times when my Mistress likes us to be equal.

What do you enjoy about being dominant/submissive?

i love the feeling of worth and being wanted as a submissive. Being treated as a prized possesion. i love pleasing my Mistress and just seeing her smile when i have done so.

What do you like about your dominant/submissive(s), if you have one (them)?

There really is nothing i do not like about my Mistress.

[csr]

How did you find out about the BDSM lifestyle?
I think my first exposure to BDSM was Mr. T's website --seeing tied-up women. I knew I liked it--but wasn't sure why. Then I bought handcuffs from a head shop in T.O. Tried them on my wife during sex, she tried them on me during sex, Couldn't really get her excited about sex anyway, so not much success. Next gf was more experimental. We experimented; I figured out what I liked. Finally I met someone who is compatible with me on other levels--and interested in domination/punishment. We had started playing full-time before I realized that there is a "lifestyle" and that there were other people out there to connect with. It makes it more fun. Some people know about the lifestyle before they ever get the nerve and/or opportunity to try it; some people are doing it first, then realize that it has a whole culture around it. The internet is good for that.

What was its appeal to you?
Feels good?

What misconceptions did you have of BDSM before you began that have been changed now?
For a long time I considered play to revolve around eventual orgam. I now realize that the process of bondage and discipline can be erotic release in itself--as obvious at a play party. I have developed that love for pain-for-pain's-sake.

What do you hope to learn/teach/pass on to others about BDSM?
I want the vanilla straight world to understand that sexual preference comes in as many flavours as Baskin Robbins ice cream. People are starting to understand that some women prefer women, some men prefer men... Well some men prefer to dominate, some women prefer submission, and some men like pain, and some women like to give it. It's all good. YKINMK.

Do you consider yourself a "lifestyler" or just an occasional player?
Not 24/7... For reasons of parenthood, and career. But I consider myself a committed lifestyler.

What do you enjoy about being dominant/submissive?
Surrendering control. And did I mention I'm a pain slut?

What do you like about your dominant/submissive(s), if you have one (them)?
She is creative. I cannot remember two scenes that were the same ever--even a quick bedroom playtime is a work of art. She puts out amazing amounts of effort into play--and doesn't even realize that I would be satisfied with less. Most of my fantasies revolve around things she's already done.