Doms: age, experience, maturity?

[Sir_Russell]

nightsilver
Thanks for seeing some of the logic there. With today's divorce rates in the US I think speaks volumes that we need to change

Yes each marriage would have a very different feel to it. I think the overall physical condition of the people involved would improve. Picture yourself knowing that you would be with a young person soon I think that at age 40 I would have been a big work out freak.

I really believe that because you feel stuck once married and things go a little sour many people find the tv and the beer or bon bons maybe both.

oh well just an old thought

Back to maturity I am not saying it is the end all. Good common sense is a large part of it, the ability to realize that if something can go wrong it will. Find someone to learn from , I was fortunate to have been mentor long ago and became safer and saner, and remember that this isn't sex that we are talking about here. Fun mistakes in sex are wonderful but a mistake with a sub can leave permant scars.

Oh I have paid it forward, I have mentor about 10 new Doms, maybe I should say 9 Doms and one guy that I realized would never get it and harm some poor sub.

Russell

[nightsilver]

nightsilver
Thanks for seeing some of the logic there. With today's divorce rates in the US I think speaks volumes that we need to change

Yes each marriage would have a very different feel to it. I think the overall physical condition of the people involved would improve. Picture yourself knowing that you would be with a young person soon I think that at age 40 I would have been a big work out freak.

I really believe that because you feel stuck once married and things go a little sour many people find the tv and the beer or bon bons maybe both.

oh well just an old thought

Back to maturity I am not saying it is the end all. Good common sense is a large part of it, the ability to realize that if something can go wrong it will. Find someone to learn from , I was fortunate to have been mentor long ago and became safer and saner, and remember that this isn't sex that we are talking about here. Fun mistakes in sex are wonderful but a mistake with a sub can leave permant scars.

Oh I have paid it forward, I have mentor about 10 new Doms, maybe I should say 9 Doms and one guy that I realized would never get it and harm some poor sub.

Russell

Having a Dom as a mentor when learning would make things safer for sure. And I know that if I should find myself where I am in a BDSM relationship with a sub of my own, I will be going slowly because I would be worried about hurting the woman I care about. It's like cooking I guess. Once you add too much its hard to take it back.

Perhaps I am being overly optimistic, but I hope I do not feel like I will be stuck should I get married in the future. I have always viewed marriage as a commitment to each other to try and make things work through the good and the bad, something that I feel lucky to have seen my parents doing as I grew up.

[~hellish one~]

It's like cooking I guess. Once you add too much its hard to take it back.

very very true! i love that analogy.