Good first step in joining a very large and varied community. I can send you copies of my bdsm hard limits questionaire, one for you the Dom and one for your perspective sub/slave. You will find that it helps you decide on compatibility for the two of you. If her hard limits are things you desire then it will not work easily. If her wants are your hard limits the it will not work easily. Another words you early on find out if there is deal breakers. Of course if all you want is temporary playmates then the negotiations will be much less important since avoiding a conflict is much easier for a ONE NIGHT STAND SORTA.

Russell