so upon seeing this particular thread re-emerge....

i had a debate with a former Dom the other night about the cheapening of submission. W/we were haveing a mild debate about whether a person that submits to many Dominants is cheapened by it all.

~now for those truly polyamourous out there, please do not be offended. i mean absolutely no offense. this is merely my own personal view.~

like what started it was He had taken a new slave under Him so to say. and He had been talking about all her other Doms, two other main ones to be exact, plus Himself. And i just got a bit frustrated because i just flat out could not comprehend how she could give her submission so easily, so completely, to so many different Doms.

it just seemed that if she could submit completely to all these other Doms, what makes it special to one Dom in particular if she submits to Him? ( again using a Male/female simply because of the example, but this can certainly apply to any D/s relationship)

in my world, my submission is almost something to be earned. i've said it many times... i must be captured and conqured completely before i'll willing and completely submit. A Dominant must prove His domination over me before He recieves my full submission. i get His Dominance, guidance, care, and pride.... in return He gets my submission, devotion, respect, and love.

but if i were to give all these things to another Dom freely.... wouldn't that cheapen my submission? again, i don't want to insult anyone, especially someone like the above submissive i described.

i realize that alot of submissives train under different Dominants before they are truly owned. And that seems to make sense but at the same time... i still cant help but wonder about the value of submission when so many other's have experienced the gift, so to say.

maybe it all boils down to the difference between the people involved. at one point during the discussion with my Dom, He said this simply meant i wasn't really polyamorous. Which is fine. But some people are. He said, as a Dom, He didn't see His new submissive's submission as any less than say my own or any other's for that matter.

Thoughts......