I am new here so you can rest assured I am not going to yell at you or get mad at you or become self-righteous. (Mind you I do not believe anyone here has done the above anyway.)

: I think it would be foolish not to question the BDSM life style and experience. This does not bring up the question of doubt because you don't want a Dom who doubts his or herself but one who can be philosophical about it all. They know what they want and why they want but still ask the big why question anyway as a mental exercise if nothing else.

Subs should ask themselves, too, what they want and how far they are willing to go to get it. Humans are questioning and questing creatures. BDSM can be a marvelous outlet for frustrations in the past and it can be part of ones questioning and questing too. Does any of this help? Hope so.

Ross