Quote Originally Posted by cariad View Post
The closest I have come to that is wondering if we do what we do because of a mental health imbalance, and if that is the case, do we tend to augment that imbalance by actively catering to it.

And I have not answered either of those questions to my satisfaction.

cariad
I thought that way for way many years and it was the reason that I refused to set that part of who I was free. I was so afraid that there was "something wrong with me"that I denied it any space in my physical and emotional life. In my personal experience, it was when I finally allowed that part of my personality to florish that I felt balanced mentally and emotionally. I am calmer and happier. It completed me. In my experience, my D/s union is what did the trick and the BDSM "play" is just icing on the cake. "Peace" ~blizz~