Sir_Russell,
As far as dealing with this lack of trust and faith for not jumping on a plane to live with her,if I were in your shoes I would point out the fact that taking care of things prior to departing is a sign of a mature,responsible adult.Clearly you have obligations and responsibilities in your present situation which require time and attention prior to pulling up stakes and moving West.Long term would she want a dominant that is impulsive or one that honors obligations and committments?