Some of mine I could keep this up for a long time

[Sir_Russell]

tessa I thank you for your insight. You may well be right she says she has never actually been loved before. I know about some of the men that have been in her life and she had the habit of picking the worst ones. Makes me wonder about me.

She and I are going to talk again begining tomorrow, I have missed her a lot. As stubborn as she is she still owns my heart

Russell

[tessa]

Don't wonder about yourself like that! She finally picked the right One. Now she just has to believe that she can be as right for you as you are for her.

I'll be thinking of you.

[Echoes]

Only my half of one cent. Of course I don't know everything about you and your Morgan, so I'm only basing my comments on what I've read from you here. And I honestly think it is more about her lack of faith in herself than anything. She is unable to believe in who she is, what she has to offer, therefore has great difficulty believing in you, specifically why you would possibly want her. If this is the case with Morgan, dealing with this takes time (and time and time), great amounts of deep love and even more patience. My husband...my Master ~smiles~ finally laid rest to those demons of mine with his constancy, his dedication and commitment and his unwavering love. And while I still have no clue why, I am most thankful and accepting of it all. I hope you and Morgan can work through your issues in much the same way, only lots more smoothly.

Pardon me if I overstepped, please?

tessa

Looks up at tessa's post, reading her words slowly and carefully then looks over at Sir Russell for a moment nodding in complete agreement with this.

It is not her lack of faith and respect in you at all.
...and an added note, if she is unable to believe in who she is and what she has to offer...to meet someone as wonderful as you would only compound this...why her she might be saying? Can she truly believe you have come into her life??? That she too would feel such love???

[fantazmaster]

Sir_Russell,
As far as dealing with this lack of trust and faith for not jumping on a plane to live with her,if I were in your shoes I would point out the fact that taking care of things prior to departing is a sign of a mature,responsible adult.Clearly you have obligations and responsibilities in your present situation which require time and attention prior to pulling up stakes and moving West.Long term would she want a dominant that is impulsive or one that honors obligations and committments?

Thank you tessa and echoes

I still plan to go to Co if she is still willing once I have things taken care of here. It does help to know someone else is concerned. I know that she is the one for me and I do miss her terribly. I just don't know how to deal with her lack of trust and faith in me just because I have not jumped a plane to live with her.

Oh well here is my thanks to you for listening and being a good friend, tessa thank you and echoes know that I will help you any way I can.

Russell

[DrGeordie]

Sir_Russell, I just wanted to add my words of support to those who have gone before in what is obviously a tough time. I shan't presume to offer advice to one who is obviously vastly more experienced than me. But I will say that you will always have friends here in the library who will be there when you need them. You have helped a great many people here on the forums and I'm sure everyone of them is grateful. I know I am. For what it's worth, in the short time I've been here you're one of the people I've come to look to as a paragon of what a Dom should be. I always look forward to your posts in this thread and elsewhere since you always espouse values I agree with. I'm sure any one of us here would gladly do anything we can to help, although clearly the decision is yours alone.

tessa raised a good point earlier. To paraphrase, anyone who has been fortunate to be the recipient of great love will question it from time to time. I suspect it isn't that uncommon for people to question whether they deserve the love they get. Unless someone is self confident to the point of extreme arrogance they will be conscious of their own flaws and struggle to believe that another person can see all of that and love them anyway. For me that's not a bad working definition of what love is. Maybe Morgan is more doubting than most if she's had bad times in the past, but that's not my place to say.

that's more than I meant to say. Suffice to say that my thoughts are with you

[Sir_Russell]

Good Morning and Happy Easter

Oh my last night there was this big drunk noisy wabbit in my house, I sang out "kill the wabbit" and beat it with a old driver.

Thanks to all of you for good advice and a fresh insights that I may not have had other wise. tessa I reread your post and yes, she has an abusive mother that has all ways run her down. She doesn't feel that she is goregous or very intelligent so your probably right along with lovely echoes that she has that low of self esteem.

fantazmaster I agree with you and it is why I will do the right thing here before I go west.

DrGeordie thank you for such kind words, I was a very arrogant young man and Dom till I got lucky and was discovered by my mentor in the life. Today I have studied 3 words that I think cover our choosen life well, Honor - Respect - Pride. I know that they aren't the ones quoted here that often but I feel that they include all the others and then some.

Now let me post some pictures as my thanks to you.

[StillBehindBlueEyes]

Thank you Sir Russell for the great pictures.
I just love reading all the posts supporting you. It makes me smile knowing there are so many great people here.
Sbbe

[Pertez]

Many thanks for the great Posts Sir_Russell

[Havensov]

Wonderful, loved the hair...

Hope things improve with you and Morgen...

Another theme seeing as I am picking out some new lawn furniture.

"Creative use of Lawn furniture in BDSM"

[pixie_dust]

Thank you so much for the wonderful posts. You are in my thoughts, as I wish you all the best.

[cariad]

Today I have studied 3 words that I think cover our choosen life well, Honor - Respect - Pride. I know that they aren't the ones quoted here that often but I feel that they include all the others and then some.

Like all great thoughts - obvious when it is pointed out!

Thank you for sharing that Sir Russell.

cariad

[DrGeordie]

Today I have studied 3 words that I think cover our choosen life well, Honor - Respect - Pride.

Precisely the reason that I value your opinions Sir_Russel. Another fine set of pictures as well

[Sir_Russell]

thanks for all the great thoughts and well wishes.

There was a slight misstatement I made. I have study HONOR, RESPECT and PRIDE FOR 30 some years and if you want I can go into detail about them but they work for each person in the life, each couple in life. It isn't enough that you have them for yourself but for your partner too, and your partner must have them for themselves and have them for you too.

Trust that is often used in bdsm circles to me it is just a by product of your partner having all three for you.

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[StillBehindBlueEyes]

Wow interesting use of Bamboo in a garden.
Thanks Sir Russell
Sbbe

[Havensov]

Very nice.... Really liked the bamboo and papasan chair. And the last one, what a way to wait for the bus...

[pixie_dust]

Great pics. Thanks again, Sir Russell

[Guest 91108]

I like #8 a lot. smiles.

[Pertez]

Thank you Again Sir_Russell

[himind]

thanks for all the great thoughts and well wishes.

There was a slight misstatement I made. I have study HONOR, RESPECT and PRIDE FOR 30 some years and if you want I can go into detail about them but they work for each person in the life, each couple in life. It isn't enough that you have them for yourself but for your partner too, and your partner must have them for themselves and have them for you too.

Trust that is often used in bdsm circles to me it is just a by product of your partner having all three for you.

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Agree with you.I would like to hear what you have to say on this subject.I feel what constitutes a goodhealthy Dom/sub relationship is something most people are clueless about,as they are about relationships in general.I don't mean it as disrespect,but concern

[Sir_Russell]

Just some pictures

[His_blizzard]

There was a slight misstatement I made. I have study HONOR, RESPECT and PRIDE FOR 30 some years and if you want I can go into detail about them but they work for each person in the life, each couple in life. It isn't enough that you have them for yourself but for your partner too, and your partner must have them for themselves and have them for you too.

I am pretty sure I understand what you are talking about here, Sir. This reminds me of the very first discipline that I was given when I had brought dishonor to Master very early in our relationship. I had been asked to keep the fact that he had agreed to be my training Dominant between the two of us until further notice. But my pride got in the way and I went ahead and told someone else in our chatroom because he was quite "the catch" at the time. I knew right away it was wrong and confessed to him that evening. It wasn't pretty. He remained cool and distant from me for a few days while he decided on the right way to discipline me for this indescretion, although making it clear that he was still there for me if I needed him. Needless to say I missed the closeness we had been sharing until then but I kept a wide berth. Knowing how I hate to do any kind of research, this is the task he had me complete.
" Not as much as punishment but as a learning exp.(although punishment should be that also) I want you to do a writing task.
I want you to take 4 different groups and define what was respect, loyalty and honor was to that society. You can use anything from the Seals to the Ancient greeks, but each must be from a different century. Describe how they saw these things, how they seemed to have gotten the definition of them and how each compared to the other. And lastly how they compare, impacted or match your own definition."
That paper took me weeks to research and write, but when it was finished I certainly learned how important they were going to be to our relationship. It is a lesson I never forgot. "Peace" ~blizz~

[DrGeordie]

Agree with you.I would like to hear what you have to say on this subject.I feel what constitutes a goodhealthy Dom/sub relationship is something most people are clueless about,as they are about relationships in general.I don't mean it as disrespect,but concern

Seconded. I'd be interested to hear what you have to say on the subject Sir Russell

[StillBehindBlueEyes]

Thanks Sir Russell
Interesting suspension pictures.
The look very difficult.
Sbbe

[Sir_Russell]

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Okay I will do a break down of them soon or atleast my take on them.

Russell

[pixie_dust]

Love the 1st and 9th of your suspension photos!!! (patiently waits for new ones to be approved)

[Warbaby1943]

Love those suspension pictures, thanks.

[hoping]

as usual you don't disappoint

If I had some one to hang in my garage it would give me a reason to clean it

[Sir_Russell]

First time I have written down my slant on HONOR, RESPECT and PRIDE so please bear with me since putting this into print will take a lot of time and effort. I will reread and rewrite till I am satisfied with the work but for now I am giving you the rough draft.

Today I have started with HONOR



HONOR, RESPECT and PRIDE

These three terms in our life are very intertwined but also each has a slightly different meaning.

HONOR:

NOUN:
1. High respect, as that shown for special merit; esteem: the honor shown to a Nobel laureate.
2.
a. Good name; reputation.
b. A source or cause of credit: was an honor to the profession.
3.
a. Glory or recognition; distinction.
b. A title conferred for achievement.
4. High rank.
5.
a. Principled uprightness of character; personal integrity.
b. A code of integrity, dignity, and pride, chiefly among men, that was maintained in some societies, as in feudal Europe, by force of arms.
c. A woman's chastity or reputation for chastity.

TRANSITIVE VERB:
hon·ored , hon·or·ing , hon·ors
a. To hold in respect; esteem.
b. To show respect for.
c. To bow to (another dancer) in square dancing: Honor your partner.
The above is dictionary quotes that are somewhat appropriate to the life.

For me honor is a code to live by including honesty, doing the right thing no matter the cost to you, being dependable and relied on by others. Having honor requires thought before you act so that you have weighed your possible actions picking the one that will allow you to respect yourself for your actions.

For your sub/slave to honor you is where trust comes into the picture. The sub/slave acts as if you are the most valuable thing in her life. She knows that she can depend on you, count that you will value her and your relationship.

Honor is also a force that moves you, protects you from evil and shields you from false moves. It is a the prism that you view the world through. It allows you to deal with people that have less honor or no honor with soiling your soul.

You will need to honor your sub/slave, giving her the benefit of the doubt because she you have taught her to live her life with honor. If she has errored you know that her reasons and logic may have been flawed but you know her heart was in the right place. You know that the sub/slave will see your punishment as earned and as tool to redirect her and re-enforce the correct actions. She will listen to you with an open mind as you explain things to her because she see and believes that you will do her not intentional harm.

This is the ability to look at yourself in the mirror with respect. It is also why you look at your sub/slave with respect and pride, and why she looks at you with respect and pride.

[Warbaby1943]

Great again. I love those Asian photos. Thanks

[goalt]

I've been lurking in here for awhile, but I'll post now:

Thanks for the wonderful pics. Some of them are really hot.