I thought long aand hard before posting this essay. Like the author, I did not like what I saw happening when the internet came into play. We watched as our relatively simple life suddenly became complicated when we were easy to find. This was not a pleasant experiance, nor was it a bad one. The aauthor was not dumping the people who dabble only on the weekens, nor was he condemning those who wanted to know more. He was saying that this is a life that takes a commitment, and there are some basice rules that apply to everyone. We had seen people that were there for the kink, that is the originlal origin of the term "bottom." They were there to experiment, and we welocomed them.

But being a Dom, or a sub, takes time. It does not happen because you procalim yourself one in a chat room, it happens because you grow into the role. This is waht he was saying. We need to remember this as we make our journey through life.