Tips for Dom's from a sub.

[wingsofanangel]

I have had some RL experience.. but I am speaking more so on behalf of subs... than just myself... things I have seen/heard/watched. This is not all online... this applies to RL too...

Also now being a married woman.. there are things I experience as just that.. not always in a D/s way.

When I say that the word "need" is different than "want" ...I don't always mean in the sense of "i want you" or "i need you" .. I was also refering to asking for something .. changing your wording can make the difference... but even if I am talking about when refering to your sub... SURE.. if you say " I want you so bad it hurts" HELL yeah I'd get my ass over there.. but thats not how all Doms say it.. I was just trying to point out a few areas in which I have seen problems or experienced them myself... or how my past Doms have one good things and I wanted to share.

Like Ocean_Soul and XSadist... thye BOTH always took the time to comfort me and comend me after a session... even if I did badly... that was important to me. Some, may not recognize the need for that... or we may have newer Doms who do not quite understand what works yet.

And obviously.. if this is happening time and time again... YES communication IS missing... I think thats why most of my ideas centered around Communicating.... -winks- Remember I wasn't refering to just my experiences...

As I stated ... .. my thoughts are just things that were in my head.. and things that worked for me or others I know... You don't have to take them to heart... especially if you have already found what works for you and your sub.

-Anya- (aka Sera)

[Warbaby1943]

Remember I wasn't refering to just my experiences...

-Anya- (aka Sera)

Sorry I must have missed that from your original post as I also missed the reference to life off line. As I said, on line is still real life. Still I think you have a very good thread going here. Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts.