Quote Originally Posted by NatalieD View Post
This raised some red flags for me too... are you talking about punishing her for saying she doesn't want to do certain things? That seems like a very bad idea to me. Even submissives have limits. Or did you just mean that, if she refuses something because it runs against her limits, you'll find a substitute that doesn't? So that she can avoid specific things she's not willing to do, but can't use that to get out of doing anything at all? 'Cuz that's a lot more reasonable.
I would have to say yes to both. It is a punishment for refusing to do something which is an incentive to push her own limits and is something that we already wanted to work on. It's also a way out so she can get out of doing something that I ask of her without having to end the scenario.