safeword..he wants me to say it?

[tessa]

violetgem, I hope you're feeling okay now. You must have been so scared and confused. ~hugs~

My husband also wanted to know, I mean really know, that I would use my safeword if I want/need/have to. A few weeks back, he purposefully did something he knew I was not so favorable about. I used it, and quick. I won't use that word unless, like rose said, I feel completely overwhelmed because I do feel like I'm a failure if I use it (I nodded in agreement when you said "suck it up"...I knew what you were saying there). But my husband also needs to feel safe in this with me. (It is a bit surprising to me to learn that Doms have that need...one more light bulb moment for me.) And if he goes too far and I don't help him know that the action was no good for me, then he feels like a failure. We just don't want any of the bad stuff, so the safeword is a must for us both.

~hugs again~

tessa