The problem here as I see it, is that the term "respect" is in the vanilla world extremly culturally coloured. If we respect someone we are suposed to do "this" and "that", but absolutely not "that".

As far as respect is concearned, our actions is of no consequence only the feelings behind it, our motives and the wishes of the recipient. My slave enjoys being humiliated. Most things I do and say to my slave would be extremly disrespectful if done or uttered to anybody else.

I'm assuming that the whole basis of this question is based on the vanilla interpretation of respect. I think it's most useful to see the people of the vanilla world as little children who only have a rudimentary knowledge of how humans function. I most often find the vanilla aproach to judging level of respect given most often laughable.

Judging the level of respect you are given by others is very complex.