First off,

Secondly, what a place to be in your life. It took me 14 years to say anything to my husband about my needs, so I'm not the best to hand out advice, but you see that's not stopping me.

If you want to see of your guy is okay with your desires, perhaps a subtle conversation after a couple glasses of wine would help, see if he resonds favorably to little quips and flirts about spankings and such.

Best of all to you!

tessa