I am glad that we could all help you and give you guidance along the way. I know that things aren't always easy when you start out but as you two stay together and learn it will get easier. There are many good books out there like the Tops book and the bottoms book and screw the roses give me the thorns that give lots of good information. You may consider looking these up and or purchasing them to help you two learn and find your place. I am also glad to see that you making it through the growing pains and learning.