Questions on collars

[usafmedic22]

cadence...no worries hun, ID's post was not a reply to yours, just another post in response to mine. It wasn't a redirect or anything.
Now...onto your questions...maybe me stumbling through them will help me answer mine...who knows so why not?
As far as losing individuality, I understand what you're saying about it bordering on abuse, but I think that is rarely the intent. And coming out of an abusive relationship myself, I can tell you that it's hard to recognize and even harder to tear yourself away from, despite it destroying you...alas but i digress.....
I can't tell you about what a slave/submissive gives up in a D/s relationship, because i'm so new. What I can tell you is that you are describing a personality very similar to mine. I was always the same way with my husband, constantly working to please and appease him, regardless of how those things affected me. I'm not saying yours are detrimental to you as mine were, just that we are similar in that way. In fact, there is a major difference in the fact that he recognizes and appreciates everything you do for him, whereas mine never did.
Anyway, I'm going to shut up now, but I wanted to make sure that you didn't think Sir was trying to redirect you, I've spoken with him and he wasn't. And I wanted to point out that we have some things in common. I'm hoping the responses to this thread will continue, and we can both learn more...
medic

[cadence]

cadence to help with your question a little it depends on personallity of the sub. My pet is more of a slave than a sub she needs boundries and she wants many things in her like to be decide by her dominate. Collar sub gives up less than a slave. A sub personallity want to keep more of herself. A collar slave has a more rooted personality of being a slave want needs desires boundries want too be told when to do sometime more restictions tha a sub. But just remember which i do she is still the women i love and protect and even her being my slave her well being in everything comes first to me.
MrDom

Thanks for your input.

cadence...no worries hun, ID's post was not a reply to yours, just another post in response to mine. It wasn't a redirect or anything.
Now...onto your questions...maybe me stumbling through them will help me answer mine...who knows so why not?
As far as losing individuality, I understand what you're saying about it bordering on abuse, but I think that is rarely the intent. And coming out of an abusive relationship myself, I can tell you that it's hard to recognize and even harder to tear yourself away from, despite it destroying you...alas but i digress.....
I can't tell you about what a slave/submissive gives up in a D/s relationship, because i'm so new. What I can tell you is that you are describing a personality very similar to mine. I was always the same way with my husband, constantly working to please and appease him, regardless of how those things affected me. I'm not saying yours are detrimental to you as mine were, just that we are similar in that way. In fact, there is a major difference in the fact that he recognizes and appreciates everything you do for him, whereas mine never did.
Anyway, I'm going to shut up now, but I wanted to make sure that you didn't think Sir was trying to redirect you, I've spoken with him and he wasn't. And I wanted to point out that we have some things in common. I'm hoping the responses to this thread will continue, and we can both learn more...
medic

And thanks for clarifying that for me, I thought that maybe by sneaking in my own question, I had overstepped my boundries in someone else's post.
Seeing that I am new to everything, and still trying to understand and learn, I can't really offer any opinions, only those that are based mostly on assumptions.


I think that just_annie explained her feelings towards receiving a collar perfectly. After reading her post I understand the concept of how a sub would feel regarding collars, and ceegee explains that as well in just a simple sentence.