I guess you aren't familiar with the "women don't like nice guys" meme, then?

It's a kind of rant/whine frequently seen online, where some guy who has no luck with women complains that they only want jerks and pretty faces, when really he never gets any because instead of making his intentions clear he just acts friendly and comforting while secretly expecting to be rewarded with affection and sex. And when the woman he's been befriending hooks up with some other guy who actually asked her out or whatever, he gets all passive-aggressive and complains that women have bad taste in men, that she was leading him on (even if she never even knew that he wanted to get in her pants), and similar crap.

I'm not saying you're doing that.

What I am saying is that I'm seeing the same kind of blanket generalizations, the same sense of entitlement, and the same indignant self-pity that characterize those "nice guys".