I'm not being as superficial as you think. I'm not looking for skinny athletic young blonde women.

The bigger the better, I like nothing more than a woman with unusualy thick legs as long as she is not very fat and unhealthy.

I fancy women of all shapes and sizes the only things that turn me off are obesity, being too weak skinny waif like and unhealthy. Or as old or older than my mum.

I love older women but I have a limit thats all.

I don't think these are really very outrageous preferences, I don't fancy blondes more than brunettes, I'm open to most things! the size of bust isn't important to me big or small it doesn't matter, I love pale skin, tanned bodies, black women, oriental, Indochinese, fiery Celtic redheads. Damn the world is a wonderfull place

In my search I have tried relationships with an obese Domme (who was the most wonderful woman sexually and mentally) and had a relationship with a 60 year old Domme which is older than my mum, the problem was I wasn't sexually attracted to them.

I wanted dearly to be attracted to the big woman I was with but my mind and body was not co operating.

Surely it is most important that I don't waste mine or other peoples time by pursuing relationships which are bound to fail??

Diamondcontrol, thankyou for you're reply. It is one thing being selective and knowing you're fabulous intelligent and in demand.

That is fine, I know I'm fabulous intelligent and good looking, unfortunately not in demand lol

It is another thing being aloof cold and unwelcoming which seems to be the default setting for male female interaction in western society as a whole and is magnified on the bdsm scene.

I understand it is partly due to scary pervy single men turning up and drooling, who wants to be around people like that.

The problem is there really is nothing in the way many Dommes act that says they have any interest in sub men other than as doormats, whether it be financial or domestic.

The most welcoming of Dommes are usually looking for a public play slave but this usually has nothing to do with sex or relationships. It's a scene thing.

I'm just speculating but I think this cold unwelcoming selectiveness is in part due to the biological fact that females select and men compete to be chosen.

In our society it is magnified by a hangover to our recent religious past that said sex was bad.

Then add the default play hard to get role that vanilla women subconsciously adopt, then fire the whole thing up with glamorous celebrity culture "because I'm worth it" and with feelings of absolute power that comes from being a Dominant woman who is in demand and you have a recipe for unapproachability and occasionally cruelty and arrogance.

All this in alternative community where most of us are struggling to find what we want and are looking for acceptance.

Just as you say I'm being too picky by expecting this or not wanting that. I have to say that the aloof selectiveness of most Dommes has meant they have missed out on getting to know a wonderful little man....... ME!!!

I'm a trained Thai masseur, a fantastic cook...no no an absolutely fantastic cook.

I have the best record collection money can buy, I read many books and love to have intelligent conversation. I'm in touch with my feminine side and my emotions. But I'm very confident masculine in manner and looks (when not dressed as a girl) and assertive in everyway apart from with people I'm sexually attracted to

I love tidying and cleaning, I'm fit and good looking and I love buying shoes, sexy womens clothes and make up, nothing better than a girly night in trying on clothes and drinking wine. Not a bad catch for any woman me think's...The best of both worlds

lol lol lol

Anyway enough already.

I hope you all understand I'm not really as picky as I sound and everything I have said is just me trying to workout a very difficult situation in my mind, so no need for anger.

I don't know you Diamondcontrol you might be the friendliest and most welcoming Domme in the world, but if you're not maybe after reading this you could smile and say "hello come and join us" when you see a shy single man at a munch or a party.

You never know he might be the most fabulous person you have ever met. lol

PS:Please forgive me but I would like to ask you a personal question Diamondcontrol is you're dominance sexual? and if so do you extend that sexuality to male submissives????