Quote Originally Posted by lucyboy View Post
Women at home have an air of aloof unapproachability about them, there is about them that vibe that says I'm fabulous and confident so you better be or "don't even bother". . . . The attitude of most of the women on the bdsm scene I have met has been one of combative selection, whereby you will be made to feel unwelcome until you can prove that you're are either outstandingly masterful or totally submissive from the outset. . . . Neither super sexy looks and fabulous clothes or a drive to fuck like a train. Without either asset women lose interest. I'm just speculating. I wonder what you guys think?
I must say I am less sympathetic than the subs who have responded. You complain about Dommes who put out a vibe that says I'm fabulous and confident." Well, it is a natural vibe for a Domme to have. And yes, I will only accept someone equally "fabulous", but you seem to focus on superficial qualities in people. A male sub does not need to have "fabulous" looks or super sexy looks or be a perfect submissive doormat, but he must be a fabulous person - I deserve and will accept nothing less. At the same time that you attribute superficial motives to Dommes who are not interested in you, you dismiss Dommes who are not superficially up to your standards -as too old or too fat. As a Domme who is primarily interested in the mental and sexual aspects of power exchange, I can honestly say perhaps some introspection about less superficial qualities might aid you in your quest.

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